I once attended a parenting seminar where the speaker asked parents, “What is your ultimate goal in raising your children?”
How would you answer that question?
Some people in the group gave very noble and biblical answers, like, “I want my kids to grow up to know and love the Lord.” Others desired that their children would get a decent job, have a nice family, and be happy.
We all want the very best for our kids, don’t we?
The problem, however, comes when society muddles the definition of what ‘the very best’ really means when it comes to our kids.
Let’s consider some ways that well-intentioned, Christian parents today are missing the point.
What’s the point?
First, it would be appropriate to determine why we and our kids are even here in the first place.
In Isaiah 43:7, the Lord refers to “… everyone who is called by my name, whom I created for my glory, whom I formed and made.”
Notice God says, “… whom I created for my glory.” He did not say, “whom I created for personal happiness and success in the world.” So, my greatest hope for my child should be for him to glorify God. Similarly, the way I love, rebuke, encourage and guide my child should bring glory to God as well.
If we have been made for the glory of God, how can we change our thinking and behavior to reflect that desire?
Sadly, other priorities and values are revealed even in the most subtle of exchanges.
What priorities are you communicating?