stop losing your temper

When my mom was alive, she used to say I was so patient with my kids.

If only she knew.


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They sure know how to bring out the best in us, don’t they?

I used to be such a calm and collected individual — now I can blow fire through my nostrils over the tiniest of infractions.

I hate it.

I don’t want my kids to remember me for my outbursts. I don’t want anger to characterize my life.

I want to be “quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:19b-20).

But how?

Cue Lisa-Jo Baker’s brand new video resource, The Temper Toolkit.

The Temper Toolkit is a collection of practical strategies, honest stories, and biblical resources from one mom to another to help moms like you and me take control of our temper BEFORE we lose it.



This fabulous and much-needed resource includes: 7 teaching videos, 5 bonus videos, downloadable audio (so you can listen on the go) and key takeaways from each lesson beautifully designed as phone lock screens, computer wallpapers or a print so you can choose which format is best to help you take the lessons with you wherever you go.

Be encouraged and have hope:



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It’s easy to get down on ourselves and feel like a failure when we blow it yet again.

One thing I love about Lisa-Jo Baker is that she helps put things into perspective. She teaches from experience, and she knows exactly what it’s like to fight these losing battles day after day.


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Are you ready to gain control of your temper? Are you aching to have peace in your home?

Act quickly — The Temper Toolkit is only available for five days: Today through Monday, February 6th!

Get access now!

Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, my hunch is that deep down, you long for connection. Maybe even crave it.

Am I right?

The reason I can say I’m pretty sure this is true about you is because I know where you come from. I know who made you, and how He did it.

What does this have to do with craving connection? Well, this creator God exists as three persons in one being—a holy trinity. He has perfect fellowship within Himself, as Father, Son, and Holy Spirit—and like I said above, He created you in His image.

We’re designed for fellowship. For connection—with God, with friends, and with community.


Join me over at iBelieve for the rest of this article on

How to Cultivate the Connection You Crave


And guess what?

The community at (in)courage is hosting 5 Weeks of Craving Connection Challenges, and you’re invited!


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Join (in)courage for 5 Weeks of Craving Connection Challenges!

From the (in)courage website:

For five weeks we are inviting you to join us in completing challenges described in Craving Connection. Starting next Tuesday, February 7, we will share an excerpt from a chapter in the book, as well as some discussion questions and the challenge for that week. We’ll ask you to complete the challenge by Friday. (And, friends, we are SO EXCITED to hear how it turns out for you! We know God is going to show up big time!!) To encourage you in your weekly challenge, the author of each week’s chapter will join us every Thursday for a conversation on social media (stay tuned for info on these chats on both Facebook  and Instagram.)

Here’s the plan:

Tuesday, February 7: A Grand Blueprint for Hospitality by Jen Schmidt (page 256)
Tuesday, February 14: I Can’t Even by Amanda White (page 86)
Tuesday, February 21: A Safe Harbor by Robin Dance  (page 120)
Tuesday, February 28: He Knows and He Is Near by Eryn Hall (page 22)
Tuesday, March 7: Longing for Loyalty by Erin Mohring (page 128)
Tuesday, March 14: Time to wrap up and talk about what’s next!

There’s no need to sign up or join a group or anything, though you may want to subscribe to emails from (in)courage to be sure you don’t miss any of the posts. Just join us on the blog each Tuesday, carry out the challenge in your daily life during the week, catch a live chat with the authors each Thursday on Facebook, and know we’re here cheering you on!

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Welcome to another round of Five Minute Friday!

My challenge for you this week is to click around the link-up until you find someone who is joining FMF for the first time. Last week I found at least three newcomers, and it makes me smile every time!

If you’re brand new to the Five Minute Friday scene, you can learn more about us by clicking here!

This week, it’s my privilege to welcome Shannon Popkin as a guest blogger. Shannon is the author of Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control from Seven Women in the Bible, which releases Friday, January 27th!




Here’s Shannon Popkin with this week’s Five Minute Friday post on the prompt:





Control. The desire for it wells up from somewhere very deep inside of me. I crave it. I feel compelled to lunge for it; to do whatever it takes to have it. I feel an urgency to take control, wondering what might happen if I don’t!

And so I go for it. I leap for it. I run for it. I grasp it as tightly as I can and clutch it with all my might.

Then without comment, control slips through my fingers like a mirage. It flutters like a leaf, blown upward into heaven.

I see now that it was all a tease. I never did have a grasp on that blasted control.

This makes me angry and frustrated. I shout at it to get right back here, and jab my finger at the ground in front of me. Then I whimper like a child because I need it so badly. But control is not mine to be had. It doesn’t belong in my hands. It belongs in God’s.

I look up to search His face, wondering why He has taken the control I so deeply long for. Is He taunting me? Is He Indifferent and aloof? Does he even see me all the way down here, beneath his throne?

I wave my hands frantically, to let him know that I need Him to send it back down. I’m ready to hold on more tightly, now. I won’t let go this time.

There’s movement. He sees me! He’s stooping low. For a moment, I’m terrified, and then I see kindness in His eyes. He whispers something into my soul and I lean forward to hear it. You were not designed to carry the burden of control. Won’t you let me carry it for you?

And then He shows me His hands. His massive, wise, holy hands. They are good, God hands.

And at first glance I didn’t notice, but now I do! He’s holding something, there. Are they threads? They’re translucent yet as strong as steel.

I look closer and see a trillion plotlines being woven together in such complexity and beauty, such that I’ve never laid eyes on. His strong fingers are twisting and tying and looping the details together—details of people who are known and loved by Him—in intricate patterns so that each thread moves the story along toward a conclusion that fills my heart with such joy I can hardly breathe.

I can’t see the ending; I can’t see the full pattern. But I just know that it is good.

“It is very good,” I hear Him say.

But when I turn my eyes back to His face, He is gone. Hidden from sight. Just like that.

It was only a glimpse, but it was enough.

I am settled now, at peace with what I can’t see and what I don’t know. I no longer feel the angst in my soul, pressing me to take and keep and have control.

He’s in control, so I don’t have to be.




Author and speaker Shannon Popkin loves to blend her gifts for storytelling and humor with her passion for God’s Word. Shannon is the author of Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control from Seven Women in the Bible, and is a contributing blogger at

Shannon is happy to be sharing life with Ken, who makes her laugh every single day. Together, they live the fast-paced life of parenting three teens. For more information and companion resources for Control Girl, including a downloadable discussion guide for leaders, go to  Shannon would love to connect with you at, or on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.




Now it’s your turn! What comes to mind when you think of the word, CONTROL? Share with us in five minutes or less!


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Starting my timer, and … GO!


After six months with my editor, my memoir manuscript is back in my court — for more edits. And while the revision process can be viewed as a drag and a tedious, tiresome task, I can honestly say that I’ve come to appreciate the pain, sweat, and tears that go into such a process.


Because the end result is always better.

Laboring hard over a table of contents, a chapter, a paragraph, a sentence — all of these efforts and brain cells rubbing together make for a more polished and effective product in the end.

More than once, I’ve thought about how much the editing process can be compared to my ongoing sanctification as a Christian.

God is chipping away at me daily, leading me through fire and trials as appropriate, sanding down the rough edges until one day they’ll become polished and smooth in His presence.

No, the refining process is never pleasant, whether we’re writing a book or walking through life.

But let’s keep our eyes on that end result, and learn to appreciate the fire.





Earlier this week I announced that I started a business last year, called Refine Services, LLC.

Refine Services

It’s been my privilege to serve a number of clients already, helping them refine their message and reach their target audience through various writing, editing, and virtual assistance projects.

Visit my website at to learn more about the services I offer, including social media management, consulting for self-published authors, book launch support, graphic design, and much more!

If you or someone you know might need help with these fields of work, I’d love to chat!



And now it’s time to write!

Set a timer for five minutes, tap away like crazy on your keyboard, publish your blog post, and share it in the link-up below! Then visit your link-up neighbor and say something nice. 🙂

Thanks for being part of Five Minute Friday!

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Some of you have been asking what I’ve been up to lately.

Well, since May 2016, I’ve been working full-time from home. God opened doors for me in the capacity of writing, editing, and virtual assistance — all things I love to do.

A few months later I registered a business called Refine Services, LLC.

Refine Services It has been such a blessing to serve my clients so far, and especially to be able to do it all from home.

If you have any writing, editing, or virtual assistance needs, I’d love to chat with you!


Some of my services include:

  • Digital marketing
  • Social media management
  • Graphic design
  • Editing book manuscripts for authors who plan to self-publish
  • Editing articles, blog posts, newsletters, web content, or other documents
  • Writing blog posts, articles, email campaigns, web content, newsletters
  • Formatting books for print and Kindle, through Fistbump Media
  • Publishing consultation through Fistbump Media


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So far I’ve worked with clients from a wide spectrum of fields, including real estate agents, financial managers, mortgage loan officers, Christian counselors, and published authors.

Here’s a video testimonial from one of my clients, real estate agent Kevin Alderink:



For more client testimonials or a free consultation, visit my website at:


Why Refine Services?

I chose the name Refine Services because my desire is to help my clients refine their message and reach their target audience — whether that’s through helping them craft engaging content, polish existing material, or make use of social media to expand their reach.

As a Christian, I’m also aware that God is continually refining me every day through His ongoing work in my life, so I wanted to remind myself that I’m not the only one doing the refining — ultimately, that’s His job.


Work with Refine Services

I’d love to discuss how I can help you meet your writing, editing, virtual assistance, or digital marketing needs!

For a free consultation, please visit or email me directly at kate<at>refineservices<dot>com.


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