Hello everyone!

Welcome to another round of Five Minute Friday! Such a treat to be with you all again.

If you’re new in these parts, go ahead and click over here to learn more about Five Minute Friday!

This week’s prompt is:





Setting my timer for five minutes, and … GO.


I wavered back and forth.

To write a Mother’s Day post or not to write, that was the question.

I had the words mapped out in my head, but was it really worth drudging them all up to the screen? Would they really benefit anyone, even myself?

I decided to just boycott the idea of Mother’s Day, even though it’s nearly impossible to avoid, with every retail outlet imaginable trying to monopolize on the made up holiday. I planned to look away and let it pass by, unless I could get something out of it for my own benefit, like maybe not having to cook lunch on Sunday.

But then Lisa-Jo Baker went and wrote this post: When You Still Need Your Mom and She’s Not There Anymore.

And it was everything I needed, and more.

Nobody had to tell me how much I miss my mom, and yet it’s hard to articulate what exactly I miss, when it’s everything.

In my memoir revisions, I spent this past week re-working the chapters about my mom’s funeral and the visitation that followed. And I remembered afresh just how amazing she was — not that I’ve forgotten. But it helped to remember that other people knew it, too.

And I realized if I had written about Mother’s Day, I would’ve wanted my words to reflect that I’m grateful for the ache, because it tells me I had something worth missing.



Thanks again for being here! Don’t forget to visit the person linked up before you, to share an encouraging word! I pray that this community is a great blessing to you. Enjoy your weekend, friends!


Join the link-up by posting your own words below!

 Loading InLinkz ...


Me too 300

Subscribe to receive the latest posts in your inbox, plus receive a free copy of the e-book, "Me Too," which includes a chapter written by Kate Motaung.

We won't send you spam. Unsubscribe at any time. Powered by ConvertKit

55 thoughts on “five minute friday :: miss

  1. Oh, Kate, I’m so sorry. I hate those made-up holidays (like Cinco de Mayo–no one in Mexico celebrates it, it’s not even independence day). I am glad that you had a mommy worth missing–that’s a beautiful tribute right there. May the Holy Spirit comfort you during this tough weekend.

  2. Thanks for your honesty, Kate. I love what you said about being helped by knowing that others knew your mom was amazing. I’ve felt the same way about my mother-in-law, who we lost almost 6 years ago. Blessings to you this Mothers’ Day as you celebrate, grieve, and remember.

  3. Kate,
    Oh how beautiful and touching. I want to cry as I read as you convey your pain well, and yet you don’t stay there. That is Jesus in you!
    I’m so proud of you for doing this book. You are putting words to something that nobody else can who has not known your pain. You are going to bring healing to thousands of people who need help!

  4. Beautiful post, Kate. Reminds me of the ending of the last of the Hobbit films…

    “If this is love, take it from me, I don’t want it…why does it hurt so much?”
    “Because it was real.”

    Joy transcended by heartbreak,is ultimately and eternally redeemed by Grace.

    • This is something I’m learning as I revise my manuscript, Christina. My editor keeps telling me I arrive at the spiritual application too quickly — that sometimes we just need to sit with the pain and the heartache for a while. I struggle, because I want to see the end! But yes, your comment is spot on. Thank you. 🙂

  5. Hugs, Kate. I’m so glad you went there and shared what you did…grateful for the ache here too…we are blessed to have had such wonderful Mums. I look forward to reading your memoirs…know it mustn’t be easy to write, but it will bless many, of that I’m sure.

    BTW my book has been released (uploaded by Amazon earlier than expected). Thank you for inspiring part of it through FMF. Will send you a copy of the final version soon. Know it will be a while till you have the time to look at it (no worries). No time to write and link up today, sadly: school holidays here.

  6. […] Every Friday we unite for five minutes to write on one word. Only five minutes, that's all we get, that's all we have. And then, right where we are, no edits or second-thoughts, we publish those words. This week, we write on miss. Go. […]

  7. Oh Kate, hugs from my heart to yours. I can only imagine…

    Yet I’ve lost BEING a mom after losing Kyle 8 years ago, so I get loss. Yet God gave me a dream last night. Oh how I cherish it! Will have to write about it and share – I had a dream. Not have. Had. Hugs!

    • Susan, certainly your pain is far more acute than my own. Your hope in the midst of such deep loss is such a testimony of God’s grace. May He continue to shine through you.

  8. So, I awoke this morning, Friday, knowing Sunday was soon upon me. Mother’s Day. A day of celebrating our mothers, mine who left earth almost 14 years ago. Mother’s Day changed for me that year she left but three years ago, life as I knew it, as a mama of four, changed even more when our son, Joshua, died by suicide. I am still a mama of four but one of my precious babies is no longer here

    Miss. Today’s word prompt. Simple. I miss my firstborn child every day. Missing has a new meaning to me one that is almost indescribable. Mother’s Day looks different, feels different now me, missing a piece of my core, my heart, never to be returned here this side of eternity. So today, I’m preparing for Sunday, seeking His grace, wisdom and peace knowing and trusting His plan. Enjoy your living mamas, enjoy your children and those memories, rejoice in them, they are a gift. Truly a gift.

    “You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.”
    ‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭26:3‬ ‭ESV‬‬

    • Oh Teresa, I can’t imagine your pain. Thank you for sharing these vulnerable words. The verse you included at the end shows where your ultimate hope rests. May you find comfort in Him, even in the midst of your grief.

  9. “I’m grateful for the ache, because it tells me I had something worth missing.” – yes, this, Kate! What a powerful thought. I was thinking today of the moments I ache for missing, some because I’d like to re-live them, and some because they never happened. What a beautiful perspective. Thank you for getting my heart thinking.

  10. “I’m grateful for the ache, because it tells me I had something worth missing.”

    Yes, that! I needed that articulated for me. My mother has been gone for 22 years now and the emptiness she left in my heart is still there – along with the fullness of what she imparted to all 6 of us. Whatever my children learn from me, they will really have learned from them. When I’m bold, loving, prayerful, or creative – it’s because of her. She rose from so many trials handed to her by life and made something beautiful. Thank you for reminding me to celebrate that instead of mourning the loss.

    • You have a beautiful perspective, Birgit. Thank you for sharing! I’m sure your children are blessed to have been influenced by both of you! I hope you have a special Mother’s Day!

  11. Thanks Kate for giving me a time and place to remember my mom and my daughter. Sweet memories still can be painful, but telling the story to others helps. Especially in this uniquely supportive community!

  12. […] Five Minute Friday (FMF)…it has become a habit, something I desire to consistently have in my life even when I don’t feel like it. It forces me to sit down and write, something I feel that I have no skill in, but aspire to push through my feelings of inadequacy in hopes to create something that might just work. […]

  13. Thank you for being vulnerable about your grief, my friend. I can’t even imagine going through the loss much less writing about it. I cherish your words. Thank you for sharing them with me – or rather us… but at the same time me, because it is so personal.

    Now I need to go read Lisa-Jo’s post.

    Bless you.

  14. I don’t have a blog to link up yet, but wanted to share a poem that came to me inspired by the word “Miss”.

    Miss denotes loss, longing, grief.
    The daily litany of lack:
    Miss the ball
    Miss connections
    Miss calls
    Miss the point

    The sins of omission:

    Miss is the past and all its regret.
    I Miss you,
    My mis-aligned
    Missing piece
    My mis-step.

    Heavier yet is the future tense “miss”;
    based entirely on the mis-apprehension
    tomorrow’s reality will bare any similarity
    to the grace of today’s.
    “Will miss” is the death knell
    tolling in the distance
    for every misappropriated hope and
    every mis-directed dream.

  15. Here’s to 5 minutes of very, rusty writing. 🙂

    Psalms 127:4 talks about children are like arrows in a man’[s hand. So I know that we are to launch them when the time is right. I believe that. But what happens if they Miss the mark that you are aiming for? 1 Timothy 1:6 says that some will and be turned to vain talk, vain discussions. I am also thinking that some will turn and it won’t be just vain talk that they start to live out.
    Having a prodigal is heartwrenching. On the good days you smile and say things like ‘they have to own their own salvation” on the bad days…it hurts. You miss them in church, you miss the leadership they had on the worship team. I’ts a miss for them to? Does God miss them? I am sure he does but does anyone else? Do the others in the body miss the member that is gone? Enough to reach out to them ? to pray for them? To apologize for any grievous thing they might have said or done to help them out the door.
    Missing the prodigal and not letting it consume you. I’ve seen that. Become so encased in your own misery that you take it out on everyone around you. I don’t want to be like that. But the missing , the letting go and letting God is difficult. And it may come across as callous to those entrenched in hurt and bitterness over their own prodigal.

    When did our children miss the mark? What can we do to draw them back?

    • I’m so, so glad you shared these words, Carol! Thank you for this reminder. I do believe that when one member of the body suffers, the whole body suffers. Grateful for the way you’ve steered my thoughts to prayer.

  16. […] This post is part of the Five Minute Friday link-up. FMF is where bloggers gather together to form a writing flash mob where we all write on a one word prompt for 5 minutes with no editing! Sound like fun? You can learn more by clicking on the button below and/or join this week’s link-up here! […]

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *